amberwearsprada asked: Depression is an extremely real thing, right ? My step dad convinced my mom that they didn't need to take me to a doctor because I can control my "depression" & that I'm making it up. Any advice/ something that will help convince them /: ?
I don’t even know how to respond to this. I am so angry and upset by this question.
Firstly, let me just state that I am not a professional - I just want to make that clear.
You’re right, depression is an extremely real thing. I should know. Your step dad has no right to try and tell you how you feel. If you want to seek help for it, you have every right to. However, help doesn’t necessary mean medication.
I’m not from the same country as you (I’m guessing you’re not in the UK?) so I honestly have no idea how your healthcare system deals with depressed youths. Are you able to book a doctor’s appointment without your parents?
In terms of convincing him, tell your step-dad the actual facts about depression. Tell him there is evidence to show that depressed patients have lower levels of several different neurotransmitters than the general population. Tell him there’s evidence to suggest a genetic predisposition for depression. Tell him there’s evidence to show that hormones play a role in depression. Tell him there’s evidence showing structural differences in the brains of depressed patients.
Tell him that brain volume in those with untreated depression decreases with length of depression.
Tell him about the consequences of depression. The horror of self-harm. The effect depression has on peoples’ social and academic lives. Tell him suicide is the third leading cause of death in people aged 15-24 in the USA. Tell him the vast majority of those suicides were completely preventable if those people had received adequate help and support - rather than ignorance and dismissal.
Tell him, whether he likes it or not, you are your own person. You have your own thoughts and your own feelings and he cannot dictate how you control them. If you want to seek help he must not prevent you from doing so, he doesn’t own you.
Please get in touch again and let me know either how it goes or if you need any support or advice. As someone who knows about depression all too well I will be happy to try and help.
Dear followers, if you can supply some better advice, please do.
Anonymous asked: I have a kink for when a fictional male character is getting beat up, bound, and/or tortured while/after trying to protect or rescue a woman. Any idea why that could be? If it helps, I would find it very hard to watch IRL and find such violence unnecessary unless it is to, in fact, defend oneself or those they love.
As far as I’m aware, there isn’t a great deal of evidence to explain why kinks (fetishes/paraphilias) exist. But really, who cares why you have it? It is what it is, focus on the present and the future.
The DSM states that one should only seek help if it is causing problems for yourself or others - and it doesn’t sound like it is.
I realise this probably isn’t the response you were hoping for. Please bare in mind that I am not a professional! I’ve seen plenty of kink-positive or sex-positive blogs out there on Tumblr, perhaps if you search for those they can give you a better response. Good luck!
There’s quite a few questions in my inbox right now
I just wanted to let people know that I am NOT ignoring them - I’ve just been neglecting this blog due to personal reasons. I hope to get back on track soon!